The Paradox of Boundaries
Men with sex addiction don't respond well to boundaries set by their partners, but they need boundaries for their recovery.
Published: December 12, 2022
Reviewed: February 19, 2025
In early recovery, men with sex addiction often don't respond well to boundaries set by their partners. I've had a lot of time to ponder on the matter. One thing I am certain, my wife was crucial to my recovery. I wish I knew then what I know now: I needed her boundaries. I wrote this article to explain and Covenant Eyes published it.
Tony is co-founder of Oak Mountain Coaching, an online practice that helps men regain their sexual integrity from the throes of active addiction and helps their partners heal from betrayal trauma.
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